Behavior and Emotions
Learn how to support children with unique emotional needs and behaviors—at home or in school.
Relation
To feel safe, seen and valued
Understanding
Behavior is really communication.
Good intentions
We all do well if we can.
What is Behavior?
Every child—and adult—experiences the world in their own unique way. Some are energetic and expressive, others calm and quiet. Behavior is one of the main ways children show their feelings.
Behavior communicates through words, body language, and inner thoughts. When behavior is called “negative,” it’s important to consider culture, ethics, and context.
Negative behavior can appear at any age—from a toddler picking their nose to a teenager running away. Every behavior sends a message about a child’s needs or feelings.
Emotions deeply influence behavior. Understanding what a child feels helps parents and teachers respond with empathy and patience. Behavior often expresses what children can’t say. Approaching behavior with curiosity creates a safe space for growth.
On the side, you’ll find common emotions, how they feel in the mind, and how they affect the body—because emotions shape behavior and expression.
Joy
- Happy, Energetic, Lighthearted, Excited
- Thinking: “This is great”, “I’m confident”, “I can do this”, “Everything feels good”
- Light, smiling, relaxed, wanting to jump, run or dance.
Sadness
- Unhappy, Feeling Down, Lonely, Heavy
- Thinking: “I feel lost”, “This is hard”, “I miss …”, “I’m tired, “I am hurt”
- Slumped posture, Slow movements, Tearful eyes, Tight chest
Anger
- Frustrated, Irritated, Annoyed, Furious
- Thinking: “This isn’t fair”, “I’m upset”, “They shouldn’t do that”, “I need to act”
- Clenched body, Tense muscles, Faster heartbeat, Tight jaw
Fear
- Scared, Nervous, Anxious, Uneasy
- Thinking: “Something bad might happen”, “I need to be careful”, “I want to get away”, “I’m not safe”
- Rapid heartbeat, Sweaty palms, Shaking or trembling, Tight stomach, Crying, Showing Anger
Excitement
- Thrilled, Eager, Energetic, Restless
- Thinking: “I can’t wait!, “This is going to be great”, “I’m ready”, “Something amazing is coming”
- Fast heartbeat, Jumping or bouncing, Tingling energy, Hard to stay still, maybe biting or fidgeting
Remorse
- Embarrassed, Regretful, Humiliated, Troubled
- Thinking: “I did something wrong”, “I should have done better”, “Others are judging me”, “I need to make it right”
- Blushing, Heavy feeling in chest, Avoiding eye contact, Tight throat or stomach
Love
- Warm, Caring, Connected, Accepted
- Thinking: “I am valued”, “I belong here”, “I care deeply”, We are together”
- Gentle smile, Calm, Steady breathing, Heart feels full and warm, Relaxed muscles.
Disappointment
- Let down, Sad, Frustrated, Discouraged
- “This isn’t what I hoped for”, “I tried but it didn’t work”, “I feel stuck”, “Maybe next time”
- Slumped posture, Heavy feeling in chest, Slow movements, Quiet or withdrawn
Supporting Behavior and Emotional Development.
Relationship
- Safe Space
- Seen, Heard and Valued
- Active Listening
Emotions
- Validate Emotions
- Name Emotions
- Know how they feel
Communication
- Clear
- Listen
- Collaborate
Support for Schools and Teachers
Problem- solving
Social Competance
Regulating Emotions
Observing Behavior
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